How do you do it all? This is one of the most common questions I’m asked. Running a business, leading a nonprofit homeschool group, and writing books—all while homeschooling four kids—sounds like a lot. And admittedly, it is. But appearances can be misleading.

Here’s the truth: I don’t do it all. Not even close. I don’t do all the things well all the time, and most importantly, I don’t do them alone.

Behind the Curtain

What people often don’t see is the teamwork, delegation, and support that make my life possible. My husband is deeply involved in our family enterprise. He doesn’t just “help out”—he’s a full partner in keeping our household running. He does all the laundry (yes, all of it!) and regularly pitches in with meals and other cleaning tasks. Our children also help manage our home, learning the value of shared responsibility as part of their education.

When life gets especially intense—like when I’m facing deadlines for a book or tackling a major work project—we bring in extra help. While I was writing A Place to Belong, we hired a chef to prepare dinners off-site and deliver them to our home because I couldn’t keep up. We still employ professional cleaners for deep cleaning, especially during seasons when I’m stretched thin. These supports don’t mean I’m failing; they mean I’m prioritizing what only I can do.

The Power of a Team

The same principle applies to the nonprofit homeschool group I lead. Our group has always had a committed leadership team—moms who pour their hearts and energy into making it thrive. The truth is, this group wouldn’t exist as it does today without them. I’m never working alone, and often, I’m not even the one working the hardest. Collaboration and delegation are at the core of what we do, and they’re what make the impossible possible.

The Gift of Timing

Another factor that’s often overlooked is timing. I didn’t step onto social media until my kids were older. For over a decade, I was offline, fully immersed in home, family, and in-person community. Those years were foundational. They gave me the space to learn, grow, and live out the values I now write and speak about.

That quiet, focused season taught me so much about what matters most. It also freed me from the pressure to “do it all” because my focus was squarely on the people in front of me. Those years weren’t flashy, but they were full of purpose—and they laid the groundwork for everything I’m doing now.

Letting Go of “Doing It All”

So, no, I don’t do it all. Balls get dropped. Ideas stay half-formed. Dreams get put on hold. And that’s okay. I’ve learned to prioritize what matters most. For me, that’s homeschooling my children, nurturing my family, and creating things—books, articles, resources—that I hope will serve others. I work imperfectly but consistently, trusting that small, faithful steps will add up over time.

To be honest, I don’t want to “do it all.” That phrase implies constant striving, endless busyness, and no room for rest. Instead, I want to focus on what’s truly important and let go of the rest, knowing that I can’t—and shouldn’t—do everything.

Encouragement for the Journey

If you’re reading this as a creator, dreamer, or homeschooler who feels like you can’t “do it all,” I want to encourage you: That’s normal. None of us can. Seasons shift, and priorities change. There are times for hands-on parenting and homemaking, and there are times for creative projects or professional pursuits. Sometimes those seasons overlap in messy ways, but you don’t have to be everything to everyone all at once.

If you’re in a season where all you can do is cook dinner, help with lessons, and keep the household running, that’s enough. Those seemingly small acts are profoundly meaningful. And if you’re in a season of building, creating, or stepping into a new venture, embrace the support you need to make it happen. None of us does it alone.

The work you’re doing—whether it’s within your home or out in the world—matters. And you’re doing enough. Keep going, friend.

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